Last year I was despairing with my eldest son’s behaviour; he is getting to THAT age when I start to have to think about dealing with teenagers, and all their challenges. He seemed to be getting into quite a bit of trouble at school and his teacher was concerned that he was beginning to idolise the boys who thought it was funny to do no work and mess around both inside and outside class.
Nothing seemed to work.
I would ban TV, computer time, football or cubs.
The response I got would vary between “so” and “I don’t care”. We even heard the odd “whatever”!
It wasn’t working.
I’d try and praise the good things I saw and found him doing, but that wasn’t enough.
Looking back on it I do wonder if it might just have been that he was growing out of primary school and needing a change from the other children. He had been with some of them since the age of 3, and although there were some good friends amongst them, they also knew how to wind each other up.