Just over ten years ago I gave birth to my son JJ and it wasn't at all the kind of birth I wanted. I had a birth plan written and I envisioned my first baby to be born in water with soft music playing, there would be minimal intervention as I believed my body was built for this and I would be able to do the most natural thing without too much fuss. My husband and Mum would be with me and I would have instant skin to skin contact to breastfeed and bond with my new baby.
The reality was a bit different. I was admitted for an unwanted induction because I had pre-eclampsia. The staff changed shifts and forgot about me for hours, at 11pm I finally begged for a bed as I was tired and they admitted they did not know I was there.