A Marathon not a Sprint Any parent - and particularly any parent in our situation knows they are in it for the long haul. This is not a race in any sense of the word, not a competition, not an enviable, pitiable, questionable or debatable life experience. And acknowledging this precipitates not only a prolonged learning process but a realisation that coping mechanisms are going to be required.
Given that all parents - like our children- are undeniably unique these coping mechanisms are going to be as numerous and varied as those who devise and adopt them. None are better or more worthwhile, none pointless and all are valid. To someone. Challenging these is cruel and uncaring, showing a painful lack of understanding of the complex position that person finds themselves in and acutely painful to the person who has built these supports in to their life.