Sixty per cent of women feel less employable since having a child, Mumsnet reported this week. A few years ago, I knew just how that felt. After one maternity leave, I wanted to get back to work but I had very little confidence.
I knew I could feed a small crowd of kids, sing a few lullabies and get to school on time. But I wasn’t so sure I could write and research any more or hold a coherent phone conversation, let alone do my accounts.
And then there was the child care issue. Finding someone lovely who I trusted to look after my brood seemed such an insurmountable hurdle, I didn’t know where to start.
Circles of Concern and Influence
Then one day I stumbled across Stephen Covey’s theory of ‘Circles of Concern and Influence’ from his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Simon and Schuster).
This is the idea that highly effective people only focus on the parts of their lives that they can control, for example health, children or problems at work (the Circle of Concern).